First of all, surrender. Not asking before surrender. This is not allowed. If one is not surrendered, then he should not put any question, because the first principle is lost. First of all you must surrender, then put question. And when you put question, don't argue. Take it.
Just like Arjuna. Arjuna was putting . . . when Arjuna surrendered himself to Kṛṣṇa, śiṣyas te 'haṁ śādhi māṁ tvāṁ prapannam (BG 2.7): "Now I become . . ." Because in the beginning he was talking like friends. So friends' argument, there is no end. Because everyone thinks that, "I am your friend. Why shall I be defeated by you?" So that talk, sort of talks, will not solve your problem how to see God. That is not possible.
Therefore, you must follow the principles done by Arjuna. He surrendered to Kṛṣṇa, "Kṛṣṇa, I know You are my friend, but unless I surrender unto You, I accept You my spiritual master, it is not possible to know." Therefore he surrendered: śiṣyas te 'haṁ śādhi māṁ prapannam. Kṛṣṇa also immediately took him as disciple and immediately chastised him, aśocyān anvaśocas tvaṁ prajñā-vādāṁś ca bhāṣase (BG 2.11): "You're talking like a very learned scholar, but you're fool number one. You do not know what is knowledge."
So we must go to certain person, such a person who can actually give us knowledge. Ādau gurvāśrayam.