Dadati pratigrhnati bhunkte bhojayate ca guhyam akhyati prcchati ca. Bhunkte bhojayate caiva sad-vidham priti-laksanam (NoI verse 4). Priti. If you want to make one friends, then these six kinds of dealings must be there

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Dadāti pratigṛhṇāti bhuṅkte bhojayate ca . . . guhyam ākhyāti pṛcchati ca. Bhuṅkte bhojayate caiva ṣaḍ-vidhaṁ prīti-lakṣaṇam (NoI verse 4). Prīti. If you want to make one friends, then these six kinds of dealings must be there. Dadāti. Dadāti means there must be . . . one must give something to the other, a friend. Just like I am friend. You are friend. I give you something. In return you give me something. Dadāti pratigṛhṇāti. Guhyam ākhyāti pṛcchati ca: I open my mind to you, you also inquire confidential things from me. Or I inquire. Guhyam ākhyāti pṛcchati ca. And then bhuṅkte bhojayate: whatever you give me, I eat, and I give you, you eat. By these six kinds of dealings, prīti, love increases. So in our Kṛṣṇa consciousness movement, we practice this. As far as possible, we are giving and taking.

730626 - Lecture SB 01.10.13 - Mayapur

Dadāti pratigṛhṇāti bhuṅkte bhojayate ca . . . guhyam ākhyāti pṛcchati ca. Bhuṅkte bhojayate caiva ṣaḍ-vidhaṁ prīti-lakṣaṇam (NoI verse 4). Prīti. If you want to make one friends, then these six kinds of dealings must be there. Dadāti.Dadāti means there must be . . . one must give something to the other, a friend. Just like I am friend. You are friend. I give you something. In return you give me something. Dadāti pratigṛhṇāti. Guhyam ākhyāti pṛcchati ca: I open my mind to you, you also inquire confidential things from me. Or I inquire. Guhyam ākhyāti pṛcchati ca. And then bhuṅkte bhojayate: whatever you give me, I eat, and I give you, you eat. By these six kinds of dealings, prīti, love increases.So in our Kṛṣṇa consciousness movement, we practice this. As far as possible, we are giving and taking. We are . . . we have made this program, Life Membership. We are giving our books, knowledge. Whatever we have got, little knowledge, we have written in our books, we are giving them: "Take it." And they are also giving: "Take this eleven hundred rupees." So this is dadāti pratigṛhṇāti. And they also come here to inquire: "Swāmījī, your movement is very nice. What is the meaning of this? What is the meaning of that?" Guhyam ākhyāti, expresses their mind. Pṛcchati. They explain, "This is my position. I cannot do it. How can I do it?" And the Vaiṣṇavas reply them. Then we invite them in our Love Feast. In all our centers, we have got this arrangement.We invite everyone: "Come on, take prasādam." And if somebody gives us something to eat, we also eat, provided he's not a Māyāvādī, karmī, jñānī. Otherwise, we should not take. We can . . . we cannot accept anything from these classes of men, atheist class. Then we'll be . . . saṅgāt.(Bengali) Saṅgāt sañjāyate kāmaḥ.If we associate with these Māyāvādī, atheist class, karmī, jñānī, yogī, then we'll infect their quality.So if we infect the Māyāvādī quality, karmī quality, jñānī quality, yogī quality . . . I see some of the students, still they practice some yoga āsana. That quality is not yet . . . he's not yet free. But this is nonsense. This is nonsense. We should, by promise, we should not associate with any of their qualities. That is . . . asat-saṅga-tyāga-ei vaiṣṇava-ācāra, asat-eka strī-saṅgī kṛṣṇābhakta āra (CC Madhya 22.87). Asat. Asat means bad element, bad association.So asat-saṅga. We have to give up asat. "So who is asat, Sir?" Caitanya Mahāprabhu's speaking: asat-saṅga-tyāga ei vaiṣṇava-ācāra. Vaiṣṇava's behavior, Vaiṣṇava's character should be simply to give up the company of the asat. Now, there are so many nice people, gentlemen. So if we give up, if we say everyone is asat . . . so we must know. The Caitanya Mahāprabhu next line gives: "Yes, asat eka strī-saṅgī." Eka strī-saṅgī. One asat is strī-saṅgī. Strī-saṅgī means too much attached to women. Or attached to women. Or attached to women. Too much or little—it doesn't matter. Attached to women. He's asat. And kṛṣṇa-abhakta—and who is not a devotee of Kṛṣṇa.So these Māyāvādīs, karmī, jñānī, yogī, they are not kṛṣṇa-bhaktas. They'll say: "Kṛṣṇa is not God. I am God. I am also God. Kṛṣṇa is not God. I am God, but Kṛṣṇa is not God." This is their version. Therefore they're rascals. "I am God." They'll declare, "I am God. You are God. But Kṛṣṇa is not God. Except Kṛṣṇa, everyone is God." This is their version. So how much rascal they are we must know. So therefore we should give up their company. Asat-saṅga-tyāga vaiṣṇava-ācāra. Otherwise, asat . . .