This gṛhamedhīs business is at night, they waste nighttime. Because we have got a limited duration of life. If we don’t fully utilize this short duration of life for cultivating ātma-tattvaṁ, to understand what I am, so whatever you are doing is simply wasting time. Whatever you are doing. So how you are wasting time? Those who are apaśyatām ātma-tattvaṁ, who cannot see, who cannot understand, who cannot vision what is ātma-tattvaṁ, what is their business? How they are wasting time? Śukadeva Goswāmī says nidrayā, by sleeping. By sleeping. They think that sleeping is an enjoyment. "If twenty-four hours I can sleep, that is very nice." You see? Nidrayā. Especially you may not sleep at daytime, but at night you have to sleep, give rest to the body.
So at night, everyone sleeps. That's a fact. Therefore the gṛhamedhī, nidrayā hriyate naktaṁ (SB 2.1.3): they pass the night either by sleeping or by sex indulgence. Nidrayā hriyate naktaṁ, vyavāyena ca vā vayaḥ. Vayaḥ means duration of life. They are wasting time in two ways at night: either by sleeping or by sex indulgence, going to the club, going to dancing, going to this or going to that or sleeping. This is the business at night. Nidrayā hriyate naktaṁ vyavāyena ca vā vayaḥ. And daytime? Divā, divā means "daytime." Cārthehayā: simply searching after money: "Where is money? Where is money? Where is money? "Divā cārthehayā kuṭumba-bharaṇena vā. Or in maintaining the family, children, purchasing for them, doing something.
So daytime's engagement and night's engagement is finished, then where is the engagement for ātma-tattvaṁ? Where is the engagement for understanding self-realization? This is the difference between gṛhamedhī and gṛhastha . A gṛhastha means he may live, just like here we see Śrī Caitanya Mahāprabhu, Śrī Nityānanda Prabhu, Śrī Advaita Prabhu and Gadādhara Prabhu and Śrīvāsa Prabhu, they are all gṛhastha s, family men, but their business was different—to cultivate self-realization. Not that divā cārthehayā rājan kuṭumba-bharaṇena vā. So the difference between gṛhastha s and gṛhamedhīs is like this. A gṛhastha is living a regulative life on principles to understand self-realization, and a gṛhamedhī, who has no vision, no idea of the aim of life . . .