If you have got determination that "We shall continue this life of birth, death, old age and disease and let loose our senses, do whatever you like," then there is no question of liberation. There is no lib . . . therefore it is said, tamo-dvāram yoṣitaṁ saṅgi-saṅgam. Yoṣitaṁ saṅgi-saṅgam means . . . yoṣit means woman, generally. The woman is supposed to be the representative of māyā. So either you directly keep relation or you keep relation with persons who are very much fond of yoṣit, in both ways you have to go directly to the darkest region of hellish condition, tamo-dvāram. Therefore our Vedic civilization is . . . the first teaching is brahmacārī. First teaching, how to become brahmacārī. There are many saintly persons, they are akhaṇḍa brahmacārī or āvala brahmacārī. They avoid. It is not only for men; it is meant for woman also, because here we are dressed like men and women. Otherwise the mentality is manly, to enjoy, puruṣa. Puruṣa means who wants to enjoy, and yoṣit means enjoy. So our relationship in this material world, that either in the dress of woman or man, the mentality is puruṣa, how to enjoy. Mentality is puruṣa.
So when we give up this mentality, enjoyer . . . because we are not actually enjoyer. Enjoyer is Kṛṣṇa. Kṛṣṇa says,
- bhoktāraṁ yajña-tapasāṁ
- sarva-loka-maheśvaram
- suhṛdaṁ sarva-bhūtānāṁ
- jñātvā māṁ . . .
- (BG 5.29)
And in the Bhagava . . . Arjuna also addresses Kṛṣṇa, paraṁ brahma paraṁ dhāma pavitraṁ paramaṁ bhavān, puruṣaṁ śāśvatam (BG 10.12): "You are the only puruṣa, śāśvata." So we are simply thinking of becoming puruṣa, enjoyer. But we are not puruṣa. We are all prakṛti.