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A boy loves a girl, a girl loves a boy. That is not love, that is lust. As soon as there is some disturbance in lusty affair, they divorce. So therefore that is not love

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"A boy loves a girl, a girl loves a boy—that is not love, that is lust. As soon as there is some disturbance in lusty affair, they divorce. So therefore that is not love"

Lectures

Srimad-Bhagavatam Lectures

So in the material world there cannot be prema. Prema means love. The prema is only possible in the spiritual world. Here, what is going on as love, that is not love, that is lust. A boy loves a girl, a girl loves a boy. That is not love, that is lust. As soon as there is some disturbance in lusty affair, they divorce. So therefore that is not love. So we should note it, that so-called love is bogus in this material world. Love cannot be possible.


Lecture on SB 2.3.1-3 -- Los Angeles, May 22, 1972:

Prabhupāda: So these are kāma, these material desires. Somebody is wanting wealth, somebody is wanting beauty, somebody is wanting strength, somebody something else. All these are . . . the beginning from brahma-varcasa-kāmas tu. And ultimately, they want to merge into the brahma-jyotir. So up to that point, everything that we want, that is material, and that is lust. Therefore it is said kāma. The just the opposite word of kāma is prema, love.

So in the material world there cannot be prema. Prema means love. The prema is only possible in the spiritual world. Here, what is going on as love, that is not love, that is lust. A boy loves a girl, a girl loves a boy—that is not love, that is lust. As soon as there is some disturbance in lusty affair, they divorce. So therefore that is not love. So we should note it, that so-called love is bogus in this material world. Love cannot be possible. This very word, love, prema, is specially reserved for Kṛṣṇa. Premā pum-artho mahān (Caitanya-manjusa). That is Caitanya Mahāprabhu's preaching, that the highest perfection of life is to evoke one's dormant love for Kṛṣṇa.

The love is there. It is reserved for Kṛṣṇa. But due to our foolishness, we are distributing that love in so many ways, up to the dog. This is called illusion. We do not know where to apply love. In this way . . . all these words is touched with the word kāma. Kāma. Kāma means lust. There is no question of love. And love . . . prema and kāma is described in Caitanya-caritāmṛta, what is prema and what is . . . prema and kāma. Ātmendriya-prīti-vāñchā tāra bali kāma (CC Adi 4.165). Kāma. What is lust? Ātmendriya-prīti, to satisfy one's own senses. That is kāma. Here, a boy and girl love. They say "love," but no, it is not love. The boy wants to satisfy his senses, and the girl wants to satisfy her senses. That's all. Therefore, ātmendriya-prīti-vāñchā. Everyone is trying to satisfy her own senses. That is kāma, lust. And then, what is prema? Kṛṣṇendriya-prīti-icchā dhare prema nāma, that when the same propensity is transferred for satisfying Kṛṣṇa's senses.

Just like gopīs. The superexcellence of gopīs is due that they wanted to satisfy Kṛṣṇa. They dressed very nicely because they thought that "Kṛṣṇa become very pleased seeing us nicely dressed." Not that . . . in this material world, a woman or a girl dress very nicely just to attract the opposite sex for his sense gratification. That's all. So everyone, all this description is given there: brahma-varcasa-kāma, vīrya-kāma, then vasu-kāma, devīṁ māyāṁ tu śrī-kāmaḥ. Śrī.

(aside) You can stand near the wall. Others may not . . .

Śrī means beauty. In the Durgā-pūjā, Devī-pūjā, they ask, after offering Mother Durgā all sorts of paraphernalia, then they puṣpāñjali, they pray favor, dhanaṁ dehi rūpaṁ dehi balaṁ dehi. Dehi, dehi. Dehi means "give me." After pūjā . . . therefore it is called pūjā. Pūjā, just like in business circle, if you want to take some business from a big merchant, so you satisfy him, flatter him, and sometimes invite him in hotel and give him nice dinner. In this way, after he is satisfied, "Sir, if you kindly give me this contract." (laughter) Or "If you give me this post." The ultimate aim is his post and contract, not to satisfy the person. No. He's spending some money for his own sense gratification. Similarly, all these pūjās, the demigod pūjā, that is for his sense gratification. That's all. Kṛṣṇa therefore condemns this: kāmais tais tair hṛta-jñānā yajante anya-devatāḥ (BG 7.20). This very kāma.

Page Title:A boy loves a girl, a girl loves a boy. That is not love, that is lust. As soon as there is some disturbance in lusty affair, they divorce. So therefore that is not love
Compiler:MadhuGopaldas
Created:19 of Oct, 2010
Totals by Section:BG=0, SB=0, CC=0, OB=0, Lec=1, Con=0, Let=0
No. of Quotes:1